Gen 16:5 Then Sarai said to Abram, “You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my servant in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the LORD judge between you and me (NIV).
Sarai was battling jealousy because Abram by Hagar was going to have a son. This is like helping someone succeed only to have a problem with them later especially when they are succeeding where you are struggling or stagnant. This was a new normal she was not ready for. Sarai in response to being despised mistreated Hagar and shifted blames to Abram, taking no part of the responsibility of offering Hagar to Abram. Hagar on the other hand was battling pride, despising her mistress. And Abram as the priest of his own home could have mediated but he did not.
Hurting and/or prideful people easily hurt others and they themselves must wrestle with partly bearing the blame of their actions and seek healing. When passion is upon the throne, reasoning is out the door and unjust accusations follow. And where honesty with self is lacking, healing is delayed. May we examine our hearts and actions.