Deu 6:4–9, 4 Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. 5 You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
As the home goes, so goes the church. Everything we believe stems from our homes. It’s where many learned to worship, to pray, to sing, and to read God’s Word. When Christian homes are strong, the church is strong. But our homes are weak, the church is impacted and cannot make up the difference, in the sense of undoing what has not been done in the home.
We are to impress God’s truth upon our children. William Perkins said “that families that do not practice family worship are like “swine” greedily gobbling up their food but never looking to the hand that brought it to them. On the other hand, he said that “those families wherein this service of God is performed, are (as it were) little churches, yea, even a kind of Paradise upon earth.”
-A Puritan Theology: Doctrine for Life (pp. 874–875).
They believed the father should be the pastor in his home the same way an ordained minister shepherds the church. One writer called the home “the seminary of the church.” The Puritans were so serious a father leading his family if he neglected the spiritual training of his family, he could be brought before the elders for church discipline. If he refused to take his proper leadership role, he could be excommunicated and disbarred from the Lord’s Table. Such a thought seems extreme to us in the day we live in. However, if we think that perhaps that says more about our laxness than it does about the strictness of the Puritans.
In 2Tim 3:14, Paul tells his young protege to remember not only what he had learned but who and where he learned it from. His grandmother Lois and mother Eunice, were two godly women that taught God’s Word from infancy (v. 15). That same Word would make him wise for salvation and would completely equip him for anything he might face in life (vv. 15-17).
Soli Deo Gloria: If you are a father are you leading your family? If you are a mother, and you don’t have a husband, or he isn’t doing it, or he is unsaved, then are you doing it?
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